Find The Common Ground

2nd of June 2008

FIND THE COMMON GROUND

It occurred to me today as I found mistakes in many of my recent posts, that my message has been translating into daily events; however I have been identifying issues in a manner that is not how I wish them to be received. I personally manage people in a more positive approach and dislike when I must be stern. Even when teaching in a way that will direct someone due to negative conduct, I still try to position my lesson in a more positive demeanor.

I was thinking about the messages I’ve delivered as I reviewed many of those posts. It hit me that I’ve been asking you to find the common ground with those among you that find you and your life unacceptable. It is unfortunate that some people live with hate in their hearts. It is even worst that some of those who hate so prolifically turn to great books of religion claiming that these books told them to take such egregious action against sinners.

It doesn’t matter if the person offending you is someone who cuts you off in bad traffic on your way home from a hard day’s work or a neighbor who doesn’t like you based on something as simple as the color of your skin, your sex, your nationality, religion or even the way you comb your hair. Regardless of why this person abhors you, take the time to find something that you share with this individual. Chances are you may never have the opportunity or the ability to change their mind set, but to change the way you reflect upon them makes all the difference in the world.

That is a power statement and one that took me many years to discover. We grow up trying desperately to fit in with the crowd and we care way too much about what others think about us. I’m not telling you to completely forget about this philosophy, but when you learn that it is far more important to care about how you think of yourself. When you make the extra steps to forgive the person who can’t see who you are as an individual, it is empower for you to witness true unconditional love in that exoneration.

Please don’t get me wrong, if it comes to defending yourself or those you love, the context of this message will not suffice, but with the absence of physical treats, forgiveness is freeing to your soul. Hate wishes to take from you the peace and the love you feel for others and most importantly, yourself. Don’t give HATE or those who subscribe to it the ability to diminish the love in your heart and the peace within your soul.

Your humble servant – Todd M. Dobson